30 Days of Kink (11)

Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?

In general, I believe it is ethical if both parties consent while knowing what they are going to do and the associated risks. SSC, RACK, etc. I won’t go into any depth on those because there are plenty of resources out there on them.

Be open and honest with each other

Be open minded about others’ kinks. We should support, not judge, if someone is into something else, but still SSC.

Make sure each person’s needs are met before, during, and after. Speak up if you need something.

Informed consent: know what you are doing, the risks and safety concerns involved, and account for them. Make sure the other is on the same page and consents after knowing the risks.

Respect the safeword.

Stop play if necessary, even without the safeword.

Use common sense.

30 Days of Kink (10)

Day 10: What are your hard limits?

I am answering this from the Dom/Top perspective. I’m probably going to forget some here.

Anything that would harm my sub.

Any playing or cheating with another person.

Golden/brown/Roman showers.

I won’t do anything I believe is beyond my Sub’s limits, even if she asks.

Anything that would out us.

Anything illegal, age play, asphyxiation.

There are other things I’m not into, but aren’t hard limits, such as latex outfits, pet play, etc.

Date Night

We had a chance for a date night (Grandma watched the kids), so we took advantage of it. We ate, went shopping, went bowling, and got ice cream at the end.

Food wasn’t anything amazing, sandwiches.

Shopping was Victoria’s Secret for much needed underwear for MS. (Laundry ruined much of what she had over time).

Bowling was the best part. Neither of us is very good (100 is a great score), but we like to compete with each other. I usually win 4/5 games or so. Being competitive, MS challenged me to the games and asked what she got if she won. Thinking quickly, I turned it around and said “If you win, you don’t have to wear an anal plug to sleep tonight”. She expressed some belief that that wasn’t fair, but agreed to it anyway. We got our shoes and headed to the lane. We picked balls and started bowling.

The first game was very close. Neither of us had been bowling for a while, so we were out of practice. We made sure to use the same initials we do here so we could post the scores.

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I barely won, but now she has to wear a plug to sleep 🙂

For the second game, I was offering to bet her for wearing ben-wa balls as well, but she wanted the second game to be a rematch for the plug. I was feeling nice, so I agreed. She started off well, and it was looking like it would be hard for me to catch up. I got closer near the end.

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Luckily I got a spare, then a strike…

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To take the win. MS Couldn’t believe it, but graciously (albeit a bit indignantly: “I have to wear the plug?”) accepted defeat.

We went for ice cream afterward, and then to pick up the kids from Grandma’s.

We went home, put the kids to sleep, and had a fashion show of the underwear purchased earlier…

It was a fun night.

30 Days of Kink (8)

Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.

I will join the ranks and post more than one:

1: Bound with leather belts, hands and elbows behind back, legs on frog tie so she can’t get up.

2: Spreader bar, heels, Strappado, gag, crotchrope.

3: Kneeling with hands cuffed, waiting for a spanking.

4: Nice rope harness with hands suspended above head.

5: Blindfold, collar, leash, being grabbed from behind.

6: Hot wax dripping on sensitive areas. Like the color contrast.

7: Bonus pic for my “Warrior Princess” submissive.

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30 Days of Kink (7)

Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

My favorite toy is my sub.

I think they meant something different for this question, so my favorite non-restraint toy right now is a the cane. I have 3 canes: one wider, one narrower, and one really thin carbon fiber cane that the seller called  the “evil stick”. The evil stick has been the only one so far that I have been able to make a welt with.

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30 Days of Kink (6)

Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.

I will preface this by saying that sometimes fantasy doesn’t match up with reality. What we can dream up in our heads may not actually work as planned in real life. Our mind doesn’t take into account refractory periods, time limits for certain positions or activities, and sometimes general safety when dreaming up a fantasy.

Currently, my most interesting fantasy involves suspension and rope bondage. Position would be legs spread apart, like she was standing with a spreader bar, but off the ground. Torso bent parallel to the ground. Wrists and elbows tied tightly behind her back and pulled up into strappado position. Rope tied into hair and tied so her head is pulled back and looking straight ahead. In that position I have easy access to all of her holes, and to her breasts underneath.

With her in that position, I can spank, cane, and whip her ass and tits. I can apply clamps and weights to nipples and labia. I can insert toys in her holes and play with her. I can shock her with the TENS unit and set it to shock when a microphone picks up a sound. I can drip hot wax on her bottom and back. I can use all of her holes and leave her messy and drippy. I can tie a Hitachi wand to her and make her cum over and over. In the fantasy I could use all 3 holes before releasing her, but that wouldn’t work in real life.

Something like this:

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(credit: google & wikipedia)

But ropes around chest and waist for suspension, and feet off the ground (and naked).